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Posted by: lightscripture Original: 9/27/2009 3:53 AM Views: 100 Comments: 22 eProps: 24 Read Comments Post a Comment Back to Your Xanga Site

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Sunday, September 27, 2009

One of my classmates, a guy, met a certain girl in a school event. Given that he is in his 40s and she is somewhere between her late-20-early-30s. He got her name and her workplace.

And through some will power and contacts, got her number, and so he called. Given that all this takes place in Latin America, say, Argentina to be more specific, I could not help but to think "stalker" in my mind.

BUT and this is a big one, this guy was sharing the story of how all this took place, and how the protagonist girl was actually flattered. and not only that, the other girls who were listening to the story with me we laughing and saying that what he did was remarkable, in a good way.

I'd like to get an opinion on how you would feel if someone from the opposite sex got your phone number and called you, to ask you out, when you have just met this person, and havent given him/her your contact info.

please rec this so I get more opinions and can then get some statistics on it, I will publish the results, I promise.

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you might want to re-read this whole thing and edit the grammar.

frankly, if the stranger is hot, then i'd be flattered but if he's ugly then he becomes creepy/stalkerish.

it's the way of the world my friend.

Posted 9/27/2009 4:43 AM by petitetokio

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My cousin did a similar thing with a girl, she ended up becoming his wife. They did have mutual friends though before

Posted 9/27/2009 9:58 AM by GERKshinobi

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HAHHAHAHA your friend petitetokio got it. if we're into the guy, we'll be flattered and consider it romantic that he was so pursuing. if we're not into him, call 911, we have a stalker.
i think i'd be a little creeped out either way but if i'm attracted to the guy, i'd probably be more forgiving.
hows that for crazy? lol

Posted 9/27/2009 11:16 AM by oOoParadiseoOo - reply

@petitetokio -

Thanks for pointing that out. Fortunately, what I wanted to say was conveyed.

Thanks for the feedback. I still would like to see what the rest of the world thinks. You see, 3 just isnt a representative sample.

@GERKshinobi -

Great story for their children. I wonder if that story could have a butterfly effect in the future and affect, generationally the way people approach people.

@oOoParadiseoOo -

You said it

Posted 9/27/2009 1:27 PM by lightscripture

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i agree with petitetokio: Edit the post. It's poorly written. LOL

Anyways..
my opinion on the subject is: IT DEPENDS.

There's tons of stuff that you are leaving out.
I mean:

How did he get the phone number and workplace?
Did he waited until the school event ended and then followed her home? Did he do the same with her workplace?
How did he approach her?
Did he just call her and said: Hi, rememeber me? Wanna go out on a date?
Was he insistent when she said: NO, You Freak(if she said it).
Does he have a restraining order on other girls?

You see, wanting to hook up with a girl and finding out her phone number doesn't make you a stalker.
If you do it the right way, it means you really like that girl and you are making a lot of effort to get her.
If you do it the wrong way, you are just another freak or another stalker.

I don't care how hot the guy/gal is.
If He/She is following you constantly (and obsessively) and acts stalkerish, stay away.

I hope this opinion helps you out, for whatever reason that is.
Don't go doing something stalkerish yourself... U GOT THAT?

Posted 9/27/2009 1:49 PM by Fede yu - reply

that's got creepster written all over it. but then it depends on the girl..some don't care while others would be weirded out

Posted 9/27/2009 6:13 PM by D5gRvTy01

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it might be creepish to some, but how will you know unless you try

Posted 9/28/2009 4:27 AM by soundz - reply

I think I did this to my bf when I first met him. We met at a winebar through a mutual friend (ie. the school event in your case?). I contacted my friend for my bf's phone number (whatever powers he has worked in his favor for the girl's number) and texted him after a couple of days to see if he wanted to go for dinner the weekend after. Is this stalkerish too in comparison? Perhaps if I was unattractive, he might have thought so... Perhaps if I demonstrated mental/emotional instability, he might have considered blocking me to save himself?

any sit-com based on plotline can be interpreted in different ways, one that says "awwww that's so cute, it must have been fate!" and other that screams: "stalker, omg how the hell did he track me down?" it all depends how charming that guy is?

Posted 9/28/2009 3:45 PM by kor_girl - reply

a lot hinges on whether the girl finds him cute.

Posted 9/29/2009 1:53 AM by moijesuisfou - reply

it depends on his face, body, background and charm

Posted 9/30/2009 6:11 PM by tousle - reply

@D5gRvTy01 -

dude, I thought the same as you, but apparently we were wrong.

@soundz -

It is really hit or miss. no way to know. and if you suck on your first try, you are never gonna know why because simply you will never get the feedback to correct what you did wrong. unless you approach it systematically, which means doing it over and over with a representative sample... which sounds.. weird..

@kor_girl -

is there any measurable way for that? I mean empirically use-able?

@moijesuisfou -

@tousle -

could you give an example that would sweep you out from your feet? I mean, in terms of methodology.

Posted 10/1/2009 11:55 PM by lightscripture

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I don't know...isn't it really obvious? it's all a matter of how attracted you are to him, because if you were, obviously any efforts he made to approach you (and in the case of him scouring for your number, it would be a big one) would be appreciated and labelled with 'aw he's so sweet to go to all that trouble to ask me on a date!'. and if you're not interested then you would degrade his attempts to know you to being shameless stalking.

it's all down to how much you want the guy back, and the things I listed above are just a few that could be determining factors for some girls. it's all relative

Posted 10/2/2009 4:30 AM by tousle - reply

it's really hard to say, and furthermore, one woman's meat is another woman's poison. i think if you like someone, you just have to be brave and go find out. i would say i am quite forgiving if its the first attempt to make contact. but if i made it clear that i am not interested and the guy persists, that's when i consider it stalking.

Posted 10/2/2009 8:03 AM by moijesuisfou - reply

@tousle -

@moijesuisfou -

So, it is really hit or miss?

Posted 10/2/2009 2:49 PM by lightscripture

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IS there a measurable way for WHAT? measuring the possibility of mental instability or potential of becoming a stalker or that any sit-com would love this equation...??

Posted 10/2/2009 7:44 PM by kor_girl - reply

@lightscripture - are you planning to mount a stalker attack on some unknowing girl?

Posted 10/3/2009 2:55 AM by tousle - reply

@kor_girl -

I just rethought my question to ask, and I dont think that what Im trying to ask is conveyable.

@tousle -

No, I usually have no problem getting girls' phone numbers. Either direct(through her or indirectly(through other than her).
Of course I often times choose the former. It is always an ego booster for her, I think.

Posted 10/3/2009 3:07 AM by lightscripture

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yeah, pretty much so, i guess.

Posted 10/3/2009 10:39 PM by moijesuisfou - reply

totally depends on if the guy is cute/hot. if he was, i'd be totally flattered. but if he wasn't... yeah i'd be creeped out.

actually no.

if the guy (hot or not) knew that the methods used were.. untraditional and a little extreme, but did it anyway cause he really liked the girl, and the girl knew that he knew this... then he is less creeper-stalker-guy, and more, sweet-really-likes-me guy. cause if the dood is clueless and does this to any girl he finds attractive, using any means possible to get in contact with women he found attractive, then it's totally creepy.

Posted 10/5/2009 11:09 PM by Proverbs3five6

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the guy really likes the girl, like getting her number is wonderful, it is not stalking but a way of saying "i really like you and i am not fooling around"

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Posted 10/21/2009 4:48 AM by genamus - reply

I would be turned off...unless he's HOT, but every girl is different. :P

Posted 10/28/2009 10:34 AM by JL789 - reply

Ahh..i because friends with this guy in my Algebra class, we exchanged numbers. Not long after, he asked if i wanted to go see a movie, and he started calling me things like "beautiful"... > < It's awkward, and all right away. Not to mention i have a bf... i wanted to somehow communicate this, but didn't want to say it right out. Sure i'd like him as a friend but not "like that."
I guess it can work sometimes, but it's odd if someone just gets your number out of nowhere, and calls you; wants to hang out suddenly and just take things so fast. Dunno how to say..

Posted 11/13/2009 7:40 PM by Yukihimekumiko - reply

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